Dealing with Doubt
We all have doubts. Although I’m a generally positive person, I deal with doubt a lot. It’s sometimes quite paralyzing. I don’t think it’s a matter of getting rid of our doubts, because they are a part of being human. It’s more in how we deal with them when they do arise.
When you’re in that place of doubt, it can feel so absolute. You feel like you’ll “never” be successful, or “always” be struggling. When you’re in this space, don’t make any decisions. If it feels particularly intense, do what you can to express your emotions. Cry if you want to. Take a hot shower. Talk with a trusted friend or loved one. Growl. Let your feelings flow.
Next, in my experience, you’ll probably be fairly worn out. Take a nap. Adjust your activities as best as you can, so that you don’t have to do a lot. It’s okay to cancel your plans when you’re feeling low. Try doing some things that bring you pleasure and ease, like reading a book, watching a movie, or going for a walk. Petting your cat or dog really helps, too.
Once you feel like you’ve calmed down and gotten a bit of your energy back, having a dialogue with your doubt is helpful. Sit with your doubt and let it speak to you. Write in your journal or make a drawing that expresses what your doubt is trying to tell you. Often your doubts, when you give them your attention, will deliver important messages about how you can adjust your life so it’s more in line with your deeper purpose. Jot down these ideas and follow through on them in the days to come. Let your doubt be a teacher, rather than an enemy.