02/17/17 9:09am

Why Even Coaches Have Coaches

Why Even Coaches Have Coaches
By BlackLion

You may be surprised to know that even the most successful coaches and mentors in the world themselves have coaches and mentors that they rely upon. No matter who you are or what you do, there is always someone out there who knows something more – or sees things differently – than you.

It’s certainly true that there is absolutely nothing wrong with who you are or what you are doing. Every one of us is a unique bundle of starlight, with atoms forged at the center of a supernova.

The real question is, are you living your life in a way that:

  • lights your spark?
  • feels like you’re becoming who you’ve always wanted to be?
  • keeps you living in a lifestyle that best suits you and the planet?
  • encourages cornucopias of growth and transformation?

There is one constant in the Universe…change. With change comes the need to adapt to new circumstances as they come up. What I’ve found is that change can be either a blessing in disguise or a lurking monster…and you get to choose how to interpret the change for yourself!

I’ve decided to choose love instead of fear.

How about you?

Sometimes change feels scary and old stumbling blocks trip us up once in awhile. This is why coaches have coaches. No one knows all the answers, even if they say that they do (including the monkey-mind voices in your head). We all desire to change and grow and become better people, in whatever way that feels best to us.

By learning from those who are where you want to be, you can adapt, emulate, and translate what they have to offer into actual change in positive ways in your own life.

Coaches love having coaches!

You get to lay yourself out on the line, trust the Universe for the right advice, right thoughts, right moments to grace your life. When you work with a coach, you are creating a bond, a trust between you so that you can be vulnerable. Being vulnerable is divine. You are absolutely present in the now, come what may.

This is spirit in action.

My coach is Jeannette Maw at Good Vibe University, and I say “Wow!” She is a bright light of laughter and wisdom. I’ve only been with her a short time and zowie, my Law of Attraction (LOA) juices are flowing. I think the catalyst for me was her “Yes!” attitude and glee for life. Our collective calls are so astute, profound, and at times we laugh out loud so hard! Like when I was Geeking out on Self-Care last month.

Starcat’s coach, who she adores, is Britt Bolnick of In Arms Coaching. Britt is a business coach who puts the deep inner work on equal footing with the outer steps, and has built an amazing tribe of heart-centered women entrepreneurs. What a vast network of tuned-in, turned-on co-creators!

In the magickal environment my coach has created with other like mind co-creators at GVU, I’d say my manifestation skills and intentions have become hyperactive! I am more aligned with my faerie play self than I’ve been for a long time. And did I even mention the whiz-bang of Jeannette’s own coach, Jeanna Gabellini? What an insightful laugh riot!

Adding the support of an uplifting coach can give you just the boost you need to become even more your authentic self.

Forgive me as I math-geek-out on you for a moment. Let’s be vectors. You have an amplitude, a measure of energy intensity. You have a direction, a measure of your true arrow. Whatever you think, becomes.

If you are aiming toward your and everyone’s highest good, the actions you take increase the amplitudes of all concurrent frequencies in sumptuous ways. Having the support of a coach increases the amplitude toward the things you’re already moving towards, and she bolsters your trajectory to stay pointed in the direction of your choosing.

Sound good?

Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s not like anyone is doing anything for me – the inner work, that is. No one else can “make” you do anything. Only when you are aligned with yourself can any of the true magick happen.

A coach is a great catalyst to get you there.

So, regardless of who you choose as a coach or mentor, the lessons you learn can be that resonant lift of energy you’ve longed to feel. The direction you choose is always still up to you. For me, I’ve decided to be a vector of good cheer.

How about you?

What action can you take to find the support that will help power your journey to the stars?

Where does your authentic tribe hang out?

What would an ideal coach or mentor feel like to you?

In what stuck areas in your life do you want more momentum forward that the catalyst of a coach or tribe would fulfill?

What vector are you moving faster towards?


Want to kindle or rekindle your connection with the Feminine Divine? Wouldn’t it be nice to finally choose to nurture yourself rather than repeat those routine memes over and over again? Ready to make a decision to fully be responsible for your gifts and dare to share them with the world? Ready to release those pesky old beliefs that are holding you back and live the life of your dreams? Are you ready to commit to a magickal life that you’ll savor day in and day out?

Schedule a Discovery Call to discover if Heart of the Goddess Spiritual Mentoring is right for you!

02/3/17 8:08am

9 Tips for Reducing News Media Overwhelm

Positive News9 Tips for Reducing News Media Overwhelm
by Starcat

Each day brings more bad news, as reported by the mainstream media. That’s just how the news media works – if there were no crises to dramatize, no one would bother to pay attention. Not that there isn’t plenty of real suffering, violence, and injustice happening in the world.

We’re seeing the end times of the patriarchy, and it’s not pretty.

You want to be compassionate; you long to be part of the solution rather than just another piece of the problem. Basically, you want to be an informed and involved citizen. At the same time, your intuition calls you to embrace the Feminine Divine’s values, which are at odds with those of our culture. You’re seeking connection, collaboration, and creativity – yet the world you see reflected in the media is full of competition, divisiveness, and conformity.

What gives? How can you avoid getting overwhelmed by the news, without sticking your head in the proverbial sand and just wishing it would stop?

Here are some tips for managing the daily news, on your own terms.

  1. Upgrade your focus. You know that the more you focus on the blessings in your life, the more you’ll bring them to the forefront. The news media does the opposite.

You get to choose the main focus of your attention each day. Rather than adopt the assumptions of the mainstream media, develop your own. You might decide that the world is beautiful, and despite its challenges, is overall a truly good place to be. When you do choose to take in the news, keep your own focus and see the problems in that context.

  1. Consider your sources. I was listening to NPR on my way to my parents’ house. They were talking about an upcoming hurricane and calmly gave information about where it might hit and the preparations people were making in various locales. I arrived at my destination, and my Dad had the evening network TV news on. Right away I noticed the contrast as the dramatic music swelled and the announcer spoke of the IMMINENT DEVASTATION that was coming – potentially, mind you. It hadn’t even happened yet! Same story, entirely different approach.

Certain news sources are better than others. Some sources strive to play your emotions like a violin. They purposefully generate fear and worry. Avoid those.

  1. Balance news with inspiration. Just as you’re in charge of your main focus and the news sources you choose, you can also choose to balance what you take in. Don’t let the TV or radio drone away in the background all day, feeding angst to your subconscious mind. Choose an inspiring audio-book for your commute, or play your favorite music. Block the posts from your negative relatives or friends on social media, and upgrade your news feed with inspiring quotes and interesting projects.

Make sure the input you choose each day includes a healthy dose of inspiration.

  1. Be grateful. For most of us, the joys in our lives actually outweigh the problems. We forget, though, since problems are often loud and insistent. Pay more attention to what’s going right than what’s going wrong. Gratitude is a perfect way to encourage this shift in focus.

Make a list each day of 10 things, people, or experiences you’re thankful for.

  1. Make conscious choices. Sure, the things you hear about on the news are overwhelming. You can’t single-handedly solve racial injustice, global warming, or world hunger. But the smaller choices you make each day do add up. Change happens when more of us choose to recycle, buy organic food, donate to worthy causes, and start conversations with our neighbors.

Make choices in your daily life that reflect your true values, and you’re part of the solution.

  1. Unplug regularly. Take a 24-hour break from TV, radio, internet, and yes, even your phone. Some people do this weekly, taking Sunday to unplug and be with loved ones. If that doesn’t work for you, try a monthly media fast. Go outside and enjoy the natural world. Talk with a friend. Eat slowly and savor every bite. Play with kids and pets. Read a book. Write in your journal. Just be yourself, free of the incessant chatter of the media.
  1. Notice the good news. Make an effort to seek out articles about what’s going right in the world. There’s plenty, though you wouldn’t know it from the daily newscasts. Actually, despite what we hear, violence and war have been decreasing steadily over the past 50 years. Look it up.
  1. Reduce your consumption. You can reduce your news consumption drastically and still know about the important things that are going on.

I practice this myself. One or two days a week I work at a public radio station, and on the days when I’m not there, I mostly don’t bother with the news. Yet I still stay informed on the issues. We’re trained to this 24-7 news cycle, but if you pay attention, most events or issues get repeated, re-broadcast, and analyzed over days and days.

You can find out what you need to know in much less time than you might think.

  1. Upgrade your filters. As a sensitive person, you might find yourself awash in the pain and suffering you hear about in the news media. It’s overwhelming, even in small doses. Grounding yourself in spiritual practices such as meditation and visualization will help you to stay compassionate while not giving way to despair. Set up an energy filter, which allows in only that which serves and uplifts you. Develop a practice of saying prayers or sending healing energies to those who are suffering.

You can’t help anyone if you’re an emotional mess. Strengthen your energy system and you’ll be much more available to work for positive change.

When you find yourself getting overwhelmed by what you hear on the news – or see on your Facebook feed – try some of these tips in order to reduce the effects of “the dreaded news” on your daily life. You’ll be glad you did. You get to choose what you focus on – cheers for caring for yourself!

01/17/17 5:28pm

Geeking Out on Self-care

Geeking Out on Self-care
by BlackLion

So far in this New Year, I have been geeking out on self-care and learning and implementing new and inspiring Law of Attraction practices into my life. In fact, I feel better now than I ever have! I am so excited about life, Feline Dreamers, and transforming the world. Now, not everyone may be as geeked out about what is happening in their sphere of self-care, so here are some resources that I have found to be instrumental in my transformation. These are the tools I feel will benefit the most people in the easiest and quickest sort of way.

Slacker manifesting. I am a big fan of letting the Universe take the reins and letting my life unfold as it wants to. The benefits of this style of manifesting are more ease, a lot less stress, and feeling into who, what, where, why and how I want my life to unfold rather than being the dictator and strict taskmaster that many folks employ as their SOP (standard operating procedure). Warning, this is not for everyone! Some folks are hard wired for hard work, nose-to-the-grindstone, get-er-done mentality. Though I do have those moments, they come AFTER I have felt my way into creating what I want and from that INSPIRED place, I create and go into full-on creation mode.

But I cannot start there. If I do, I end up spinning my wheels and burning myself out without anything to show for it. Of course, if I go too far into the slacker part (and forget about the manifesting part) then I do get caught in the potential trap of watching Netflix and chilling all day. :)

You may be wondering how I get out of the “lazy” mode. Well, for me, when I recognize that I am focused more on being rather than doing, I give myself a pat on the back! We are human beings, not human doings. But remembering to focus on what is REALLY valuable and important to me – love, freedom, creativity, sparking up others, spirit – that is when slacker manifesting becomes a HUGE asset for me. Easy-does-it self-care!

Meditation. I have added a regular just-before-getting-out-of-bed meditation practice that has kept me more fully engaged with my Source and attuned to what I want to create in my life. I set my alarm to get up (or whenever I naturally want to rise) and set a 30-minute timer. This not only feels luxurious, it is also sending signals to the Universe that I want to feel more refreshed, aligned and ready to give the best that I have each and every day.

Sure, some days are easier than others, and sometimes I don’t have the time to meditate the full half an hour. So, I just set my alarm for 10-15-20 minutes depending on what I have available. If I have a client or biz call in the morning, I will do a quick chakra shining meditation (filling each chakra with pure positive white light) and then be on my way. I highly recommend taking the time to listen within every day and making this delightful self-care practice an integral part of your life!

Visualization. Another practice I’ve added to my morning and evening bedtimes is visualization. Right now I am combining aligning with more money (who doesn’t want this?) and my rocking physical body. I’ve been so inspired by my new friends at Good Vibes University that I’ve create a visualization that puts me into my best future self right now. I get into this feeling place of how I would feel AS IF it were already true. I call him Sexy Adventure Brent (SAB)!

I find a way to imagine myself into the body of SAB, to really see, hear, and touch being him. I have this vision of me on my yacht swaying in the water. I am smiling and laughing, I feel on top of the world in my tropical paradise with two lovely women who are so excited to be with me, and I with them. We’re going to head out on an adventure and I am feeling fully satisfied and ALIVE! What would you envision for your ROCKIN’ self?

Bullet Journaling. Starcat was so excited at the end of last year about this new practice she wanted to start in January. She told me about a journaling technique that combined to-dos, calendars, inspirations, affirmations, and whatever else was ringing her bell into a bullet journal. The bullet stands for all the little pips in a grid that you can connect and use any way you see fit. One night we were watching some Netflix, then decided we wanted to watch something else, but not really sure what it was – not a movie, not a TV show. She asked, “Do you want to watch a Bullet Journal video with me?” Intrigued, I said yes.

Wow, am I hooked! I used some of my Christmas Amazon gift card and bought a journal (Leuchtturm1917, Purple) for myself. I have since added some of the Big Ideas that keep floating around on random pieces of paper, inspiring thoughts, plus I have several doodling pages that are perfect. I have a monthly page, weekly pages and a quasi-daily log where I add my gratitudes, tasks and whatever. And remember the whole slacker manifesting? Well, I give myself plenty of slack about when/if I do bullet journaling for the day, hence the quasi-daily log. I’ve also added a box in my weekly log that has the day’s events/appointments/tasks but also what I did for self-care like my meditations, visualizations and, yes, when I bullet journal I count it too! Loves it!

Dance. Whenever I hear a kicking beat, my body just wants to move on its own! I am a drummer and musician and dancer, so I always have music going on in one form or another. Sometimes I am rocking in my chair, and other times I am spinning around on the linoleum in my fuzzy socks! Now, I’ve been dancing off and on for as long as I felt comfortable, which I think finally manifested in my 20s by going out to the local club several times a week.

I don’t go out that much any more (much less drinking involved that way), but I do love to boogie down! So I crank up some Michael Franti or Ziggy Marley and spin and jump and stuff. Also, I spin poi, so I have been really enjoying practicing “air poi” as part of my dance practice. Plus, this is exactly what Sexy Adventure Brent would be doing in tropical clubs anyway, so why not signal the Universe that YES, I AM SEXY! Even if dancing is not your style, walking, running, hiking, skiing, swimming, anything that gets your body moving and into the zone will be of full self-care benefit to you.

What are some of your practices that get you all vibed up and aligned with the Universe?

Share them in the comments!