01/17/17 5:28pm

Geeking Out on Self-care

Geeking Out on Self-care
by BlackLion

So far in this New Year, I have been geeking out on self-care and learning and implementing new and inspiring Law of Attraction practices into my life. In fact, I feel better now than I ever have! I am so excited about life, Feline Dreamers, and transforming the world. Now, not everyone may be as geeked out about what is happening in their sphere of self-care, so here are some resources that I have found to be instrumental in my transformation. These are the tools I feel will benefit the most people in the easiest and quickest sort of way.

Slacker manifesting. I am a big fan of letting the Universe take the reins and letting my life unfold as it wants to. The benefits of this style of manifesting are more ease, a lot less stress, and feeling into who, what, where, why and how I want my life to unfold rather than being the dictator and strict taskmaster that many folks employ as their SOP (standard operating procedure). Warning, this is not for everyone! Some folks are hard wired for hard work, nose-to-the-grindstone, get-er-done mentality. Though I do have those moments, they come AFTER I have felt my way into creating what I want and from that INSPIRED place, I create and go into full-on creation mode.

But I cannot start there. If I do, I end up spinning my wheels and burning myself out without anything to show for it. Of course, if I go too far into the slacker part (and forget about the manifesting part) then I do get caught in the potential trap of watching Netflix and chilling all day. :)

You may be wondering how I get out of the “lazy” mode. Well, for me, when I recognize that I am focused more on being rather than doing, I give myself a pat on the back! We are human beings, not human doings. But remembering to focus on what is REALLY valuable and important to me – love, freedom, creativity, sparking up others, spirit – that is when slacker manifesting becomes a HUGE asset for me. Easy-does-it self-care!

Meditation. I have added a regular just-before-getting-out-of-bed meditation practice that has kept me more fully engaged with my Source and attuned to what I want to create in my life. I set my alarm to get up (or whenever I naturally want to rise) and set a 30-minute timer. This not only feels luxurious, it is also sending signals to the Universe that I want to feel more refreshed, aligned and ready to give the best that I have each and every day.

Sure, some days are easier than others, and sometimes I don’t have the time to meditate the full half an hour. So, I just set my alarm for 10-15-20 minutes depending on what I have available. If I have a client or biz call in the morning, I will do a quick chakra shining meditation (filling each chakra with pure positive white light) and then be on my way. I highly recommend taking the time to listen within every day and making this delightful self-care practice an integral part of your life!

Visualization. Another practice I’ve added to my morning and evening bedtimes is visualization. Right now I am combining aligning with more money (who doesn’t want this?) and my rocking physical body. I’ve been so inspired by my new friends at Good Vibes University that I’ve create a visualization that puts me into my best future self right now. I get into this feeling place of how I would feel AS IF it were already true. I call him Sexy Adventure Brent (SAB)!

I find a way to imagine myself into the body of SAB, to really see, hear, and touch being him. I have this vision of me on my yacht swaying in the water. I am smiling and laughing, I feel on top of the world in my tropical paradise with two lovely women who are so excited to be with me, and I with them. We’re going to head out on an adventure and I am feeling fully satisfied and ALIVE! What would you envision for your ROCKIN’ self?

Bullet Journaling. Starcat was so excited at the end of last year about this new practice she wanted to start in January. She told me about a journaling technique that combined to-dos, calendars, inspirations, affirmations, and whatever else was ringing her bell into a bullet journal. The bullet stands for all the little pips in a grid that you can connect and use any way you see fit. One night we were watching some Netflix, then decided we wanted to watch something else, but not really sure what it was – not a movie, not a TV show. She asked, “Do you want to watch a Bullet Journal video with me?” Intrigued, I said yes.

Wow, am I hooked! I used some of my Christmas Amazon gift card and bought a journal (Leuchtturm1917, Purple) for myself. I have since added some of the Big Ideas that keep floating around on random pieces of paper, inspiring thoughts, plus I have several doodling pages that are perfect. I have a monthly page, weekly pages and a quasi-daily log where I add my gratitudes, tasks and whatever. And remember the whole slacker manifesting? Well, I give myself plenty of slack about when/if I do bullet journaling for the day, hence the quasi-daily log. I’ve also added a box in my weekly log that has the day’s events/appointments/tasks but also what I did for self-care like my meditations, visualizations and, yes, when I bullet journal I count it too! Loves it!

Dance. Whenever I hear a kicking beat, my body just wants to move on its own! I am a drummer and musician and dancer, so I always have music going on in one form or another. Sometimes I am rocking in my chair, and other times I am spinning around on the linoleum in my fuzzy socks! Now, I’ve been dancing off and on for as long as I felt comfortable, which I think finally manifested in my 20s by going out to the local club several times a week.

I don’t go out that much any more (much less drinking involved that way), but I do love to boogie down! So I crank up some Michael Franti or Ziggy Marley and spin and jump and stuff. Also, I spin poi, so I have been really enjoying practicing “air poi” as part of my dance practice. Plus, this is exactly what Sexy Adventure Brent would be doing in tropical clubs anyway, so why not signal the Universe that YES, I AM SEXY! Even if dancing is not your style, walking, running, hiking, skiing, swimming, anything that gets your body moving and into the zone will be of full self-care benefit to you.

What are some of your practices that get you all vibed up and aligned with the Universe?

Share them in the comments!

01/9/17 3:16pm

It Was Supposed to Be Epic

Free Your True SelfIt Was Supposed to Be Epic
by Starcat

On Thursday morning, I woke up in tears.

The night before, we’d done our big start-of-the-new-year workshop, the one we’d been preparing for and discussing with all sorts of cool folks and promoting and meditating on.

We’d had nearly 30 “yesses” for the workshop, and yet only one person actually showed up for the live call (she was amazing, and I’m so thankful she made it!). Several people told us they had trouble and couldn’t get in to the call.  The service we were using wasn’t doing what it should have – and people actually were trying to get in but couldn’t get on the line.

We recorded the workshop, which went well. That night, BlackLion and I talked about how it was too bad that we had a technical glitch, but what can you do? We calmly discussed our next steps.

But early in the morning, it was my heart that woke me.

I felt so deeply disappointed, so sad that it hadn’t gone well, that the visualization I’d been doing wasn’t working. I was crushed. This was an important step in getting our work out there into the world, to help more people, to make a difference. I knew that I couldn’t just give up, but I couldn’t see a way forward, either. I couldn’t just “get back on the horse.”

You see, my business isn’t just a business. Our Feline Dreamers workshops and courses, and the books that I write, are my passions. They are an intrinsic part of my soul’s mission.

At an autumn retreat with my business coach, I refined that mission into words that captured how empassioned I feel about my work in the world:

I lead people to the wellspring of their Divine connection. I then hand them the tools to come alive to their soul’s deepest purpose and embrace their juiciest passions, with joy and creativity. I am a role model and mentor for the resurgence of the Feminine Divine.

Not that I could feel it, that morning in my bed with tears running down onto my pillow, thinking that probably hormones weren’t helping the crisis, wanting to just lie there all day and feel bad about myself.

But that wasn’t really an option either – not for long.

Healer, heal thyself, right?

I meditated, like I do each morning (even though I didn’t really want to).
I got up and took a long hot shower, while listening to a playlist of chants, heavy on melodic women’s voices and tabla drums.
I was drawn to clean and de-clutter my bedroom.
I put away the last of the holiday gifts and decorations.
I folded and put away laundry, all the while moving slowly and treating myself with tenderness.
I drank plenty of water and ate nourishing food.

A good friend had planned to come over in the afternoon. I tried to postpone, telling her I wouldn’t be very good company. She told me “you don’t have to always be happy” (she’s a wise woman). The way things worked out, she came over in the evening instead, bearing treats from the local ice cream shop. It was medicine for the soul – we vented and laughed and brainstormed ideas of fun things to do together.

Gradually, I felt better. I was ready to look ahead again.

The next morning I talked with my business coach, another wise and kind woman, and she had lots of ideas to share. “All is not lost,” she said. She pointed me back towards my epic mission and helped me connect to WHY it’s so important for me to be able to support you in the ways I’m called to.

So, even though it feels really vulnerable, I’m here sharing this story.

Even though I’m afraid (to be disappointed again), we’re going to re-offer the workshop (on a different service, one that’s much more accessible) so that when you enroll you can actually get on the call live with us, which is where the magic happens. Showing up live is one of the ways that you can put your money where your intentions are, and actually take steps to make what you want this year HAPPEN.

Here’s what I know to be true this week:
I can pick myself up and get back on the horse, on my own terms.
I can lean on my self-care practices and my tribe sisters.
When things really suck, I have the tools to help me do my work and get back to center.
I want to share that with you, with my readers and clients and tribe members.

I’m on a mission to make those tools and practices available to more and more of us, especially women.

We need it, especially now, with the political climate full of hate and the last waltz of the patriarchy in full swing. Make no mistake – the death throes of the current system are going to be loud and ugly – we need each of you to be operating in your full power, with all tools at your disposal.

We’re part of the awakening of human consciousness. We each have a part to play. We are the change. Which sounds lovely on paper – but it can be a bumpy ride sometimes – and doing the same old things but expecting different results NEVER WORKS. Let’s try it differently, TOGETHER.

If this story resonates with you, we’d love for you to join us and uplift yourself in 2017. Remember, you can know all the tools in the book, but they don’t help unless you choose to do the work. Even on those days when you’d rather just crawl back under the covers.

12/22/16 10:30am

Learn to Be As Authentic as a 4-Year-Old

Learn to Be As Authentic as a 4-Year-Old
by Starcat

tandj2004Have you ever watched a young child, say under the age of five, interact with the world? They are unapologetic about what they want. They’re quick to laugh, curious about everything, and relate with everyone on an equal basis. Sure, they’re still learning to respect others’ boundaries, but they have absolutely no doubt that they deserve the best in life. They are authentic and real.

Young children, especially those growing up in loving homes, know that they are innately worthy of existing, and of following their passions. Their sense of self-worth is fully intact. They know what’s meaningful to them, and what is not.

This isn’t something you see often in adults.

But why? How did we lose that innate feeling of self-worth and purpose?

An accumulation of factors, like these:

  • Failing, in a world where winning is everything.
  • Not fitting in, as part of a society that values conformity over uniqueness.
  • Being shy or introverted in a culture that favors the outgoing.
  • Criticism and correction by well-meaning family members, which nonetheless made you feel like you weren’t good enough.
  • Being a woman, a minority, or a disabled person.
  • Having a sexual orientation that’s frowned upon by mainstream culture.
  • Growing up in poverty, and not being able to keep up with the mythical Joneses.
  • Looking different, feeling different, being different.

Nothing is wrong with any of these things, and yet you were taught that being different is bad. You absorbed that lesson, especially as a child. Public school is all about conformity, about measuring yourself against others. In the institutional school setting, even the most popular and academically-minded kids often feel like a fraud, hiding their true selves behind a mask of success.

ntb2005The self-worth you inhabited as a young child gets buried under a mountain of beliefs that were served up to you by those around you and society as a whole. You bought into the notion that you’re just not good enough to live your dreams, to have what you want, to live a joyful life. You’re fed the line that you should be humble, and modest, and not “toot your own horn.”

And sooner or later, you believe it, to the point where you feel guilty on those rare occasions when you do feel good about yourself. So many kind, creative, and compassionate people believe that there really is something inherently wrong with them.

It doesn’t feel good – and it’s so untrue!

The bright side to all of this is that you learned this behavior, so now you can unlearn it. You can shed those layers of beliefs and criticism and pain, and uncover your authentic self. It’s still there, somewhere deep inside.

You know that you’re worthy of love, of joy, of sharing your unique gifts with the world. Deep inside, you know that you wouldn’t be here without a purpose. Once you shed those layers of doubt and shame, you know that you can really shine.

I’ve been working with my core beliefs for several years now, including reclaiming my self-worth and self-love, with amazing results. By uncovering and embracing my innate worthiness, I’ve become so much happier. My life has changed for the better. I’m making incredible progress toward my most cherished dreams. Each day, I wake up feeling truly grateful for my life.

No, it’s not a magic pill. I still have down days, and failures, and disappointments. But the difference is, there’s no need to blame myself. I know that I’m worthy of love, joy, and health. I fall down, but I get back up and try again, without all the self-criticism and recriminations that used to hold me back. It feels fantastic!

Is this something you want for yourself?

t2000Sure, you can take this journey on your own, like I did, with the trial-and-error, three-steps-forward-two-steps-back approach. But wouldn’t it be awesome to have some support from someone who’s been there? To discover techniques that will help you in your quest to rediscover your authentic self and your innate worthiness? To jump-start the process with a boost of momentum?

BlackLion and I are offering a free virtual workshop that lends you a helping hand on your journey to self-worth. Join us for A Self-Worth Tune-Up: Gear Up for an Epic 2017! on Wednesday, January 4, 2017 at 7pm EST. You’ll tune in from the comfort of your own home to learn tools to uplift your worthiness and banish old negative beliefs.

Let  your inner 4-year-old out to play, and you’ll be welcoming more joy, purpose, and self-love into your everyday life. You won’t regret it!

Reserve your spot now.